Worse yet are the “I Support Survivors” coattail riders, who will jump on your coattails in order to make themselves feel better and important by “supporting” an abuse survivor, or “standing with” an abuse survivor. Are they taking the abuse survivor into their home to protect her, or him, or them? Are they volunteer foster parents taking in abused children? Are they taking abuse survivors to the hospital or mental health therapy? Or are they simply trying to make themselves look good by bleating like goats and spreading hatred and unforgiveness on social media? If they aren't doing those first three things, then they are not supporting a single abuse survivor.
These types like to rebel against God by sinning as well as to adding to Scripture, and you are helping them commit those sins. How are they adding to Scripture you ask? By adding to the list of unforgivable sins. Scripture clearly states that ALL sins are forgivable except the ONE sin of blaspheming the Holy Spirit (Matthew 12:31). But for these coattail riders they are ready and willing to add abuse (of any kind) to that list, thus adding to Scripture.
Furthermore, God also commands us to forgive others. “For if you forgive others for their transgressions, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive your transgressions” (Matthew 6:14-15 LSB). By sharing your abuse story on social media, and these coattail riders then add to Scripture and refuse to forgive abusers, then you are culpable for their sin and eventual casting into the lake of fire if they don’t repent.
A quick note to those coattail riders, heaping abuse on those you suspect of abuse is about as hypocritical as you can possibly be. Just so you know, and thus remove any excuse you may have drummed up in your own head,
If you doubt what I am writing here, simply read the various social media threads and feeds where someone’s, especially a Christian’s abuse story is shared.
As I noted, there are many, many excellent resources for those who have been abused, and that includes those adults who were abused as children. If you haven’t learned to really deal with what you went through, I strongly encourage you to seek professional help, and if possible from a Christian counselor who is thoroughly steeped in God’s Word.
A note on the image I used for this blog article: Is this the image of the abuse victim who feels depersonalized and detached, locked in a fog of despair? Or is the image what an abuse victim sees when they have terrible nightmares of their abuse (and they do have terrible nightmares)? Is this the image they have of their abuser? All three could be true. I’ll let the abuse victims decide. They will know what I mean.
One last thing, and this is for my detractors who will undoubtedly fire back with something along the lines of, “What does Tuttle know about abuse, unless he is an abuser himself! He’s just another old white man!” Well, yes, I am an old (65 years old) white man, though I don’t see what my skin color and gender have to do with this. Men, and even White men, have been, and currently are, the victims of abuse. Abuse victims are not exclusively women and children. And what do I know about abuse? I was physically and psychologically abused from the age of 3 to 17 when I finally left home; and, sexually abused from the age of 7 to 13. I won’t go into particulars, but just know it was far more perverse and degrading than you can possibly imaging. So yeah, I know a thing or two about this subject. And yes, I have forgiven my abusers. If I can, then you can too. Just do it the same way I did. Trust God to grant you the ability to forgive. He doesn’t fail.
If you, or someone you know, is the victim of abuse, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You can do so by calling, 1.800.799.7233 (TTY 1.800.787.3224), or texting “Start” to 88788, or visiting https://www.thehotline.org/ and clicking on the chat link. Their website also has a link to search for local resources to help you. No one should suffer abuse. No one.
I sincerely hope this has been helpful to someone.